Learn Strengths and Weaknesses of Each Style

Why bother?  Because we're creatures of habit and prefer what we've done in the past.   If you don't recognize that each style is useful for some purposes but unhelpful for others, you will make things worse in some conflicts, even when your intentions are good.   When you are good at all five styles you will have greater flexibility and freedom to choose the response that is right for the situation you are in.

Click here for a graphic of all five styles on one page.

In the tabs you will find a summary of the strengths and weaknesses of each style.
In reviewing each style, note that:

• The key difference between the styles is the priorities of the user, that is, whether you focus on your own agenda, the relationship, or both.
• Each style has a certain kind of power, but it comes from differing sources.
• Each style provides certain benefits, but also has real limits and costs if relied on too much.

Click on the tabs.